You only have one life to live, so you better make the best out of it. I listened to something this morning that got me thinking about some of the things that I did growing up as a teenager and a younger adult.
Peer pressure they say is one of the major things that ruin teenagers and permit me to say adults alike. Most of the time, you find out that people do things not because they really want to do them but because an external factor (either positive or negative) is influencing them to do those things. Like Sir Isaac Newton said in his laws of motion, all things are in a state of rest until acted upon by an external force.
Are you aware that you don’t have any point to prove to anyone? I barely remember the faces of half of the girls we did some crazy things to impress back then in secondary school, even their names escape me. I remember in secondary school we had these two groups (Mekas & Big Boys) most boys made subtle efforts, some more than others to be a part of either of the two groups. Silly stuff went down and all but looking back today, I cannot remember most of the people from back then. During our university days, there was the hip crowd that would always gather at Iya’s place for breakfast and some bottles all day long and the various brotherhoods across campus, but today, all of that is a blur. Imagine the fate of those people that lost their lives, property, money earned by very caring parents etc. in a bit to “Belong” and today all of that is like a mirage, a fleeting thought from memories past.
Isn’t that the same case today where people drive cars that they don’t have need for, live in houses and estates they can barely afford, send their children to schools that they have to borrow money perpetually to pay for and go on vacations relying on the breakfast package that comes with their bed & breakfast hotel booking all of these just to keep up appearances or try to prove a point.
I know there are healthy competitions, but as you are reading this, there is that one person whose name just pops up in your mind or maybe it sounds like I am talking about you. But we all know that one person or persons who fit this description. You may have confronted them once or so on the matter or you just talk behind their backs about it.
Truthfully, after all is said and done, YOU DO NOT HAVE A POINT TO PROVE TO ANYONE. Not your friends nor enemies, not your family nor pastor, not your boss nor colleagues, not even your spouse. The one person you owe an explanation for your life and the way you live/lived it, the one person that you have a point to prove to is the one who made you #GOD.
If this is the case, why don’t you live your life in a way that will be pleasing to the person you are accountable to? He has a point to prove through you.